Don’t be an a******
When I originally wrote that title, I thought it was a little strong, so I planned on changing it. But I think for this topic, it’s worthy of this title. And I’m not using it lightly.
Recently I saw friend from high school post something on her Facebook page about her 13-year-old daughter. The young lady has an ADHD diagnosis and according to her mother some impulsivity issues that they are dealing with and the young lady can sometimes come across as obnoxious to others. Including her classmates. She has a Snapchat account and she posted a picture to which some of her classmates responded with some very harsh words.
Telling her to kill her self.
Telling her the world wouldn’t miss her
and might be better without her.
Stupid shit like that.
She tried to take her life and fortunately she was not successful. She has a supportive family and is getting help.
Her story is unique to her, but her story is all too common amongst so many. It’s heartbreaking. And in all of my years in education, this isn’t new. Social media just seems to strengthen bully mentality. And sometimes it ends in a devestating way.
Right now, I just want to put a couple of reminders out there.
If you are a student, pay attention to your intentions in the world.
If you are a parent, remind your kiddos of how to treat others and continue to remind them.
Share stories like this to prevent them from happening more.
You do not have to be best friends with everybody you meet. You do not have to go on a date with somebody who is your lab partner in biology. You don’t even have to except everybody’s friend request on Instagram or Snapchat or whatever. But what you do need to do, is be respectful.
You might not like everybody you come across. Some people are mean and rude. Some people are immature and obnoxious. Some people just rub you the wrong way. But just because somebody isn’t exactly your flavor, it does not give you permission to act like an asshole. If you don’t have anything kind to say, keep your mouth shut.
And if you find yourself in a position where you need to speak up for somebody who is hurting, and that might be yourself, do it with class and grace. Do not stoop to the level of the perpetrator.
And remember, you can always walk away. Find your tribe, your ring of protection and speak up for help. It’s there. You’re not alone.
If anyone out there needs immediate help, please call 911. If you need to talk to someone, try the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255. They also have an online chat.
Chin up. Be brave. Be kind. XO